People can provide any number they choose, photos can be deceiving or site users can post old photos to back up the lie.Read this email I got from a divorced woman: I went out with a guy who claimed to be 45 when he was really 58.Tidy Heidi says she was introduced to swissflirt by one of her friends – "she was writing her thesis as well..." – but it's not just distracted students and agoraphobic insomniacs who skulk around chatrooms."There are people like me just having fun and enjoying good conversations," she says."And there are also people who treat it more like a game – for example there are some men who say they are women.""But I also met men who spoke to me in a sexual way immediately – I didn't appreciate that at all."Healthy cynicism And it is this anonymity and the internet's reputation for attracting the more isolationist members of society that sets off alarm bells – rather than wedding bells – for most people unfamiliar with chatrooms."I didn't know anything about [online dating]," Tidy Heidi says.Remember that when you put yourself out there online, the most important thing is to be proud of who you are, and that includes your age.Some people will like it and some won't, and that's OK. Jackie Pilossoph is a freelance columnist for Chicago Tribune Media Group.
I can say that while in my core I've always been the same person, I am very different at age 51 than I was at 21, 31 or even 41. So if you think about it, we just keep getting better and better the older we get.
When they do, do they think the person they lied to is just going to say, "Oh, that's OK. The red flag will immediately go up, respect will be lost, and the person will wonder what else the oldie isn't telling them.
The other downside of lying about your age in online dating is that you are really lying about who you are.
Don't they realize that almost all outcomes will be bad?
The person they lied to could see them in person for the first time and know they are lying immediately, and that might be the end right there.