You want to know why your heart gets broken each time a new guy disappears?
It’s not because you’re a fool for believing that good men exist. He seemed so great, so perfect, so kind, so consistent. If this story feels familiar to you, it’s because it’s familiar to EVERYONE.
How can I get her to take her profile down without seeming too pushy?
That can quickly lead to the hopes that the next guy will be “the one.” Great post, as usual!The best way to see this clearer is to flip the situation over. She’ll either think that’s sweet and offer to remove her profile, or she’ll remind you that you’re just “seeing each other” and that she’s not ready to be exclusive. I did this three years ago and it worked perfectly. Which is why I reassured her that she didn’t have to remove her profile. And if she wanted to go out with twenty other JDate guys before taking her profile down, she could.If some girl is into you, but you’re not into her, you’re gonna keep browsing online. However, if she refuses to be Miss Right Now and makes it clear that she’ll accept nothing less than a commitment, that’s okay. As far as I was concerned, going on a bunch of dates would only reinforce why she should be exclusive with me. Now if you take down your profile and she say anything, you might want to step up your efforts to see her more. The good thing is that there’s no downside to pushing things forward.The point is that, by getting too excited about a promising dating prospect, you’re emotionally setting yourself up for heartbreak. When you choose to be devastated by a man who is NOT your boyfriend, what you’re really doing is holding onto the loss of your fantasy.You’re not really mourning the loss of a guy you never had.