The students come from all over-California, Costa Rica, Colombia, South Africa, Turkey, Russia, Bhutan, New York.They embody the stereotype of a younger generation that sees nothing wrong with "hooking up" or cohabiting before marriage.Benjamin Barber, a junior at Patrick Henry College (PHC), said he was naïve when he arrived at the school.
I might not get asked out for another 10 years.'" The "if" is big: Christian student after student in four states generalized to me: "Women don't get asked out." Christian students at the University of Texas at Austin find a friendly haven at Hill House, an old home just off campus with books, comfortable chairs, and Bible studies. But some young women hate that pressure: "Saying yes to a date is not saying yes to a proposal." College senior Susannah Foote felt that pressure. Since she didn't believe in "casual dating," she had to be either emotionally separate from the guy, or engaged to him: "If you are dedicated to emotional purity, you are afraid.
But another result, according to many women, is both paralysis and pressure. Under pressure from the female grad students he went further: He's "no fan of casual dating." He wants to "make sure as best I could" that he only asks out a girl if it's likely to result in marriage.
TKC student Catherine Ratcliffe says shows well that "sexual purity is important," but it also led many of her classmates to "think we should never hang out unless we want to marry. [Now] Christian couples will rush into relationships, saying, 'we intend to marry,' because they think they are not allowed to date unless they intend to marry." Pressure, pressure, pressure. It is alternately frustrating and extremely painful. He wants to be "fairly confident" and uses terms like selective to describe his process: "If and when I do get married, I want to enter into it with as few relationships as possible." There's the dilemma. You go from zero to 100, or people will talk." While guys wait to find Miss Right, some girls "guard their hearts." College freshman Alexandria Nogy didn't date in high school because she didn't see the logic of it. Investing time with marriage as the end goal: Yes, "otherwise it doesn't lead to anything productive." Maintaining "emotional purity" isn't easy, and sometimes girls get into heart relationships despite their best efforts to monitor their thoughts.
I asked some godly guys I know, and here’s what they had to say. —Ben Don’t be afraid to be friendly to a guy you may be interested in.
(Something I learned from their input: it doesn’t take much to get their attention! Attention for girls who don’t flirt starts slow but lasts. Love and pursue Jesus as your number one priority, and guys who want a godly wife will notice. Nothing wrong with making conversation and being cordial.