Basically, they have a little more money, and that’s it. Nice guys are good breadwinners, and in many decades of science, it’s clear that once you have enough money for the basics, you won’t be substantially happier with more.
No, everything is actually the way two people in love relate to one another. But nice guys tend to show a woman that they genuinely like and care about her.
On personality inventories, jerks aren’t sociopaths — they’re just really disagreeable, per scientific studies on personality.
A cocky attitude may in itself tell a woman a guy has the goods, and lying can cover the rest. Jerks probably do get women more easily in casual sex scenarios.
He took you out for the nice dinner date, but you really would have preferred the cheap taco shop down the street.
Do women truly prefer jerks — men who treat them rudely, who act like they could take ‘em or leave ‘em, or who actually do take them…then leave them? Just as the toughest jock would have made a great protector in the ancient past—where all human mating psychology comes from—women today are drawn to whoever gets them and their kids/genes to survive. They aren’t better employees, but they have no hesitations about putting themselves or their interests forward. The Panties There’s an industry directed at teaching men to be jerks—to alternately fake long-term interest, feign indifference, and/or pretend they’ve got more money (or degrees, cars, houses) than they really do.
If it weren’t for the stories and letters, I’d have to wonder; I myself prefer good, true, honest, loving, kind, faithful men—most especially the nice guy I married. And yet we all know women who can’t seem to get excited about anyone but a jerk. There’s probably something to this; in studies, some women admit that when they have casual sex, they maintain high standards for a guy’s high resources.
And studies show that very few men want to play the field all their lives; men and women alike want lasting, true love.
But jerks often lack what it takes to sustain that.