Recently, a colleague of mine, a successful psychologist in her mid-30s, confided in me about an ongoing problem she faces in her dating life: She feels that she’s simply too tall for most men, standing at almost six feet.
The issue she struggles with is the same issue many other tall women deal with as they look for a good romantic partner.
How can you get thicker skin about your height when society – and many men – are too intimidated to date a tall woman? For anyone who deals with sex or appearance issues, I always encourage them to be disciplined about getting some private naked time at home.
Spend a few minutes every day – at least for a month or so – looking in the mirror at your body, and complimenting parts of your body out loud. Some tall women give themselves permission to wear heels when they’re out with a man who is the same height or shorter, but I know many women who still cater more to men’s feelings and wear flats just in case he feels uncomfortable with the height discrepancy. It is crucial that you wear whatever shoes and clothing you want to wear, because you need to start every relationship focusing on your needs and desires – not the other way around.
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So then what happens if that special someone is like, really tall? Like, an inch shorter than you even though you’re 6’2,” tall.
For example, in your online dating profile, don’t be shy about making your height a focus of your profile. – about your physical attributes when you’ve got no investment, rather than anticipating a date but later being let down if he’s not interested in you.
What’s more, many very tall women engage in a range of behaviors to diminish the impact of their height in order to appeal more to men.
” Discussing the issue directly prevents a tall woman from having to go home, internalize worry or self-conscious thoughts, and wonder whether the new guy is going to be interested in her.
If you wonder, always ask; if you don’t, that’s fine, too.
Here’s an example: (Smiling) “I know some guys have a thing about feeling uncomfortable with a tall woman.
Are you like that, or is that not something you really care about?