In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong.
When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.
The first thing that the study has shown was that when a man showed interest in a woman, she tended to like him and feel attraction towards him than towards a man who showed no interest at all.
First conclusion here: If you want a girl, you need to show some interest in her. The study also showed that was mostly attracted to these guys who showed both signals of interest and disinterest (for example, he liked her photo, but didn’t like what she wrote about herself). And when she needs to work hard to get a guy, it’s not only a challenge, it’s also a signal that he’s an attractive guy who has many options.
Playing hard to get is exactly this – showing a woman both signals of interest and disinterest all together. What we learned from the study above is exactly what you should do with a girl – mix both signals of interest and disinterest. You can tell her how much you enjoyed the date with her, and later not to answer some of her calls (“because you were busy”).
Last example: you can give her a compliment for something she did, and then tell her that she got you a bit bored by talking too much about herself.
That’s what attracts women the most – when a guy is interested in her, but she needs to put efforts to impress him.