As INFPs, we live in an internal dream world of our ideals where everything exists the way we think it should be.When reality forces us to wake up, it feels a little like dying.Elizabeth Kübler-Ross in her book On Death and Dying, wrote that people experience five stages of grief when they are confronted with significant loss like receiving news of terminal illness.As the real world begins crowding into the INFPs idealized world, INFPs realize that we have to let go of the our idealize version of the world.INFPs in the anger stage have few friends and work at jobs they feel is beneath their natural talent.Bad relationships are always about the INFP getting mistreated in some way.I don’t think any INFP would turn down the keys from someone who just drove a truckload of money to their front doorstep. We have an ideal of what our perfect world would be like. Bargaining stage is about eschewing those things the INFP doesn’t need instead of fully committing to the things they really want.
Their experience has taught them that no matter what they’ve tried to achieve personal happiness, it never works out because of other people, the situation, the way the world is and other external factors beyond their control.They see not being unhappy isn’t the same as being happy.Stage 4: Depression The depression stage manifests as inaction.INFPs start moving out of denial phase about 6 months after they started paying rent and stopped doing laundry at their parent’s house.Stage 2: Anger The anger stage manifests as placing blame. INFPs believe that the world is too shallow, materialistic and uncaring to recognize the awesomeness of the INFP’s individuality.