‘He’d have to have good facial features, particularly nice eyes and, to seal the deal, a wide bum and thick legs to carry him around.’ Heidi says it is the dichotomy of soft and strong she finds so titillating.
‘Fat men are big compared to me and yet there’s a vulnerability to them because they’re not falling in line with societal standards.
It’s a common assumption that women like their men with chiselled cheekbones and a taut stomach.
Studies of male physical attractiveness tend to support this idea, with research by University College London finding that women like their men muscular (we’re talking athletic, not Arnie) and with a narrow waist and wide shoulders. David Beckham’s rippled torso might make most girls go weak at the knees but, for some, fleshy wobbles are a huge turn-on.
‘In developed countries, fat is associated with laziness and bigger people are often denigrated in society.
Yet his height defines him, since it has prevented otherwise interested women from being interested in him over the course of his entire life. Okay, I’m kidding about the last part, but only because I’m so serious about the rest of this. And even though we had good initial results, the fact remains, empirically: women don’t want short men.
When men date fat women, they are called âfeedersâ and get pleasure from feeding her and being dominant. Another explanation could be they have a fetish for fat flaps or âpannusâ, which are hanging flaps of adipose tissue.’ Whatever the explanation, these women are at least challenging the idea that thin is the epitome of attraction (although most men admit a fleshy, imperfect handful is far sexier than a boney, veiny limb).
Dr Swami says we’re told women should be slim yet busty and that men should look like Brad Pitt.
‘We know about men who like fat women but we haven’t done any research into women who like bigger men simply because they’re not as common â but we do know they are out there.
The non-scientific research we have done found fat men are described as âbearsâ because they are both tough and cuddly.’ In other circles, namely online dating websites and in the fat acceptance movement, these men are also referred to as Big Handsome Men.