My husband is painfully shy and still managed to pick up the phone and call me. I have NEVER had it go well when I've been the one to make the first move; it's always ended up in heartache. I certainly don't think women should just sit around feigning disinterest and expect to be adored - you've definitely got to show that you're interested, too .... Excuses like "he's just shy" don't cut it with me and never will.
To me, that's rather putting the cart before the horse, and it really used to be the other way around.I think the relationship has deepened, however, as I've let him do the leading.I've never been asked out by a woman before, but as a man, and through everything that I've been able to glean from discussions with my other male friends, I can't imagine that any guy wouldn't feel flattered at having the girl doing the asking and making the first move.Saying “hey” in a first message is equivalent to saying nothing — this greeting has an 84% chance of being completely ignored, according to a 2015 Ok Cupid data report.And at Ok Cupid, we want to help you date like you give a damn, because you really should.