He sent a few angry, childish texts then after a few weeks of silence on my end, he said everything that I ever wanted to hear and more… It had more to do with his own ego and image than it ever had to do with any genuine love for or missing of me. xoxo I totally agree, it’s not about playing games. I just wanted to hear an update on this particular relationship in your life. And so he could treat his 40 year old freeloader niece like a queen. And partying with her and her male friends in her room. Always more concerned with making them happy, and I could never understand why it couldn’t be equal to some extent?This is why I always say- If you want an emotionally unavailable guy to have one clue of what he put you through – off. Be with someone that’s willing to, if need be, address their issues right away because the thought of not being with you and having to miss you for reals is not something that he ever, ever wants to feel or deal with. Im one of those “he’ll realize what a great catch I am and come back a changed man” people and I think, if I listen to the experience of someone who went through pretty much exactly the same thing I am with this emotionally unavailable man that wasn’t terrible towards me but lazy and did the bare minimum, then I can completely move on from feeling like that. I thought I was going to be with him alone at home but she be coming back again. Why didn’t I deserve the same respect and attention?Let’s be honest.of us are seeking a “I miss you” because we WANT to teach them a lesson, we WANT them to crack from being an ass hole to finally saying something.. I was a fool and it took me almost 4 years to change my number and leave without a word.
If I would have taken a fraction of the time that I’ve spent pondering those questions to learn a new language, I could have written this post in 9 different languages by now.with emotionally unavailable guys, they’ll THINK OF YOU when you cut them off, they’ll “MISS YOU,” in the sense that they miss what you provided (since they are all about themselves and unable to empathize or connect emotionally and it’s all about what they can get out of and gain from people, relationships and situations).They will REGRET that they don’t have you around as an option any longer.Fast forward to a lot of tears, heartbreaks and enough f*cktards to sink the Titanic later, I now have a much better understanding of it all. B) Find something in his profile that really hurts you and makes you to to stop thinking about him (i.e.he has a new flame), but since your programs are set on “validation seeking mode,” instead of taking that information to motivate you to move on, you use it as an anchor to sink is why you always end up f*cked over and alone.