"Parents can be so uncomfortable with the idea of their kid becoming more grown up -- we wish our kids could stay kids," Atkins says."The problem with that attitude is that your kid still is a kid.As you watch others watch your date, what’s going through your head?Everyone is going to think something in this situation.And he or she needs your guidance and support right now." You don’t want them learning the rules of dating from peers or the media, without your input.The more you talk to your kids about what it means to be in a healthy relationship, the more likely they are to experience that, whenever they start dating.Notice what "dating" seems to mean to your child and then talk about it.Michelle Anthony, Ph D, a developmental psychologist and learning therapist in Denver, suggests an opening line like: “It sounds like a lot of kids are talking about dating now. ” If you can't tell what dating means to your kid, try discussing dating as shown on TV shows or in movies that are age-appropriate.
Moral of the story: You should only date someone who is much more attractive than you if you have a good, healthy ego — you like yourself, believe you’re attractive enough, don’t place much importance on physical appearance, don’t get paranoid or jealous, and believe you are a great package with many positive characteristics.
In terms of the people you’ve dated in the past, how attractive would you say they are?
As you walk toward your plush red corner booth in the back, you notice that several diners take note of your gorgeous date and follow your date with their eyes all the way to the booth.
Hopefully you know what your insecurities are and you’ve reflected on how they developed.
In addition, you’ve hopefully taken steps to keep your insecurities in check and work on improving your self-esteem.