And I made the best Jewish match that I possibly could. One day, if my partner and I have children, we will raise them Jewish.And I see no reason why his knowledge and abilities won't make their Jewishness that much richer.
It really depends on a lot of factors and also on the person you’re dealing with. Even though Jewishness really doesn't and shouldn't lie on a spectrum, people have called me "very Jewish." I go to synagogue. Jews as a group have historically valued study, logical ability, artistic prowess, and social justice work. There are one or two of us who have become famous athletes.I work at a synagogue, leading services with a rabbi. Not that other men aren't sensitive, but Jewish men are maybe more likely to be sensitive. In other words, we're a very accomplished little group of people.Sometimes people in the subway ask me if I'm Jewish. He grew up in a family that celebrated Christmas but didn't otherwise participate in Christian practices. But beyond that, another Jew might better understand me, on a deeper, spiritual level. He would almost certainly be better able to raise Jewish children, because he'd be prepared to teach them scales and arpeggios on the piano and the blessing over the challah.The Jews handing out Shabbat candles and propaganda booklets on campus used to stop me every time I walked by. Judaism is a much more diverse group than it's given credit for, but I just happen to fit a lot of the old ashkenazic stereotypes. He doesn't bother to define himself religiously or call himself an atheist. He would have a special way of looking at the world that would match my special way of looking at the world. One of the Jews I dated made it very clear that he looked down on me, just a little, for not being quite the right kind of Jew. God was not called "he." Another Jew I dated thought I wasn't devoted enough to Israel.