There are plenty of things that I’d rather not “admit to” on the very first date before the prospective partner has had a chance to get to know the real me, the deep-down me.
And think about it: if there were separate dating sites that are baggage-specific that everyone was expected to segregate themselves into, there wouldn’t be much of a dating pool, now would there?
You are cutting out quite a sizable amount of potential suitors!
If you don’t even let the non-herpes population know you exist, you are taking all those great people who could care less about herpes off the menu.
Some people couldn’t date midgets or super tall people; to others, that’s their thing.
Some people don’t want to chance getting herpes, some people can.
There’s a lot of strength that comes with living with herpes and disclosing it to potential partners.
Learn how to be okay enough with who you are to put yourself out there and take the chance.To a lesser degree, there also exists similar material which caters to "average" men who are attracted to little people, or, in other words, dwarves & midgets.I have known of one man who dated several women afflicted with dwarfism before marrying one (firmly establishing, in my mind, that little people were his "type," considering the effort that must have been involved in finding these women). Are these men who are consistently attracted to little people or the morbidly obese fetishists, or merely men who are expressing a preference as for brown hair vs. If the former, what makes their interest different from that of the latter? Are the women who fall into the above categories happy to have the attentions of these men, considering that their dating landscape is probably fraught with more challenges than most? I have known of a number of couples in which the man was "average" and the woman was a little person, but never the reverse.I feel that the very reason there are STD-only sites out there speaks to our own shame of somehow being “found out” — whatever that means to each of us. Like, “Man, if anyone finds out this deep down thing I’ve been trying to hide, they’ll definitely run away screaming.” Then when it has happened that I’ve shared with those close to me these supposedly deeply shameful things, they respond with “Wait, that’s all you got?” Sometimes we convince ourselves of things that just aren’t true.