Hi Meredith, I have been with my husband for 12 years, and married for almost 10. A few months after my second one was born, I happened upon a dating site left open on my husband's laptop. We have never had a great sex life because of issues on both sides.
He had not only created a profile but also corresponded with several women looking to have an intimate fling. It's something we have both tried to work on, off and on.
Don't assume that he'll learn a lesson by confessing.
Forget the redemption and punishment stuff for a bit and focus on getting help from the people who love you. I wish I could tell you whether to stick it out, but I just don't know enough about what's happening in his head. Also know this: Broken families are bad, but so are tense, resentful families who stay together without love and trust. He went into some long story how he was showing his coworker "Match" becasue he was so lucky to have met me and she wanted to meet someone and start dating again. Then I decided to look on plenty of fish and there he was again, with updated pictures and he was listed as single and "looking for a serious relationship". all the bulls*** lies "ur the only one" c**p DON'T BELIEVE THAT BULL!I joked and asked him if he was tring to find another girlfriend-"he laughed and said no way babe". He said you are all I want, I promise I was just looking on there for her. I confronted him and he cried, I cried, and begged me to forgive him and it was all so innocent. A GUY THAT TRULY LOVES YOU WOULD NEVER EVER MAKE U FEEL INSECURE, NEVER SET UP A PROFILE LIKE THAT. boy did i ever lol DO NOT TRUST EM OR FORGIVE 'EM PLEASE! Here's my story, I met a really nice and good looking guy via an art site.I felt betrayed and I thought there and then,just end it he's not interested,but i liked him so much I couldnt bear to let him go and lose him from my life. He often looked bored on cam,but when he checked on something online,i dont know if it was messages from other girls or what,but his face would become interested.He suffers from depression,and it seems as though he wants constant stimulation from either dating sites,playstation,city life etc.