Nothing is more annoying than a guy who takes shortcuts.” She cites the following example: “Say I spend an entire paragraph talking about how one of my loves is spending time with my sister and rolling around with her two boys. ’ I’m like, ‘Can’t you even be bothered to read the whole profile? If the other person’s profile says, ‘I’m looking for long-term,’ and all you’re after is hooking up, give it a pass.’ Or, I’ll have stated that if you do any drugs at all—even pot—you and I will not be a match, yet I hear from guys who are clearly into partying.” Wendy’s cardinal rule for online dating is this: Don’t waste your own time and don’t waste other people’s time. Similarly, if you want something more serious, and all she’s into is random play, move on.” Next: Scaling it back [pagebreak] The problem for many younger guys when choosing appropriate potential partners, notes Wendy, are “the shiny factor” and “single focus self-involvement lenses.” The most frequent offenders, in her experience, are twenty-somethings just looking to hook up or find some instant gratification. “They see a tremendous rack in one of my pictures, and they’re mesmerized, and I get the IM or email.” (In fact, commenting on a woman’s physical attractiveness right off the bat can actually be a turn-off, according to Robinson, since it can be read as superficial.
It was overwhelming.” The flip side of the over-sharer is the losing lothario who opens with, “Hey, are you naked right now? “That’s not just wasting my time and yours, it’s actually making me angry. He actually reads her profile and decides he might want something more; that she might be the one?According to Pierce, photo number one (the “cover photo”) should inspire “interest and intrigue.” Make sure the background says something about you (e.g.a beautiful or foreign place, something that could qualify as a “conversation starter”) but obscure your face, such to compel the person to scroll through your other photos. Now that you’ve hooked them with your intriguing and interesting self, Piercey recommends demystifying things with a “flattering close-up of just you, no pals.” Related: Online Dating 101: Keep Your Shirt On 3.Wendy, a veteran online dater from the tri-state area concurs.“It sounds stupid and elementary,” she says, “but it shocks me how many guys—especially the ones in their 20s—don’t fully read the profile.