She’ll be saying to herself, “” And of course, she’ll want to open herself up and continue connecting with you.
BTW, this is also a key technique for creating the kind of emotional connections that will get girls to fall in love with you FAST.
When you’re emotionally pulling a girl in by telling her to kiss you, she will have to work extra hard to resist. In fact, by pulling most of the time, when you do finally push her away, it’ll feel that much more powerful to her. (Pull #5) Her: (laughed) Me: (perking up and letting out a sly smile): Okay, give me your number. I took her number, we talked a little bit more, then I let her go back to her friends. You can’t imagine something like this working when you’re a beginner, but this is how top naturals with tons of confidence around women are able to get the girl excited and attracted so fast. In fact, I don’t even think that push was necessary.
Most girls like a strong, dominant, powerful, confident, charismatic guy, and many girls have the fantasy of “being taken” by such a man. If you’re a dominant guy, girls will feel pressure to follow your orders, and unless she’s very dominant herself, chances are good that she will NOT pull you in return every time. (Push #1) Her: (laughed) Me: (said nothing and continued looking fake-mad) Her: “Okay, bye,” and started walking off. I texted her about an hour later, and she texted back, asking what I was doing tomorrow. This sort of Pull Cocky-Funny can get you super fast makeouts and, as my natural friends have shown, club bathroom hookups. Among the community old-timers, Zan is probably the best representative of this kind of cocky-funny.
If you still don’t know what good BL&T looks, sounds, and feels like, check out The Social Man on You Tube for some videos on that. It’s for guys who want to know what it’s like to live in the top 10%, or higher, of men in this world. The man has good fundamentals (good body language, tonality, tight inner game and is hence non-needy, etc.).
My focus here is on the 80/20 principle applied to the push-pull dynamic. What I say here is NOT for absolute newbies, who don’t yet have their fundamentals down (body language, tonality, and basic inner game). A quickie definition of push-pull straight from the pen of Swingcat: We’ll be filling this out as we go along. While you can succeed using almost any combination of push and pull (e.g., 80% push-20% pull, 50% push-50% pull), This applies only if the following also hold: a.
Hence, girls (and most people in general) will naturally feel like following your lead.
So when you tell a girl to sit down, she will feel a strong social and emotional pull to sit down. I’m going to go home and cry now (and then I slumped my shoulders as if completely sad and depressed).
One very effective kind of pull technique is in conjunction with screening and qualifying.
If you’re confident and cool, then every qualification is actually a pull.