For example, the individual asked may be declining the request because he/she already has a partner, isn't interested in dating, is in a bad mood, etc.
None of these factors are the "fault" of the person making the request or say anything about him/her as an individual.
BUT, those negative feelings are made MUCH worse by false assumptions about rejection (the cognitive distortions above). There are many reasons why someone can be disinterested and very few of them relate to you at all.
It leaves open the facts that: It should go without saying, but I will say it anyway.
For now, I hope to reverse some of the misconceptions surrounding "rejection", and help individuals avoid the negative emotional experiences that often accompany it. (If you want skip the explanation and jump directly to the "take home points" go to Breaking Down Rejection Distortions and Feeling Better below).
At this point, some of you may be wondering why I am using such "elaborate" language to discuss the topic.
The advice above is contingent on you making the request in a manner that respects the legal rights and stated preferences of others.
You are entitled to make your request in a respectful and civil manner. Furthermore, you are responsible for respecting their choice.