You don’t see the person as a whole…you see the perfect wedding night/pure marriage you’ll never be able to have if you stay with them. How they treat you, who they are, and how much you enjoy them should be hugely important factors. Some of those other qualities can be even more rare than virginity. But given that the rest of the world is full of one night stands, casual sex, and “hook up culture”, maybe the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend has only had sex with one other person in the context of a long term relationship (or whatever) isn’t so bad.. Appreciate that in the grand scheme of things, your girlfriend/boyfriend may be much closer to your sincere, genuine idea of sexuality than he/she is to those “other” people’s warped and soulless view of sex.Maybe they had sex before with one person but only a couple of times.Unless you’re taking Barlow Girl’s stance on waiting till marriage (no dating until marriage), you’re probably going to date several people for various periods of time before you get married.Depending on how picky you are, some of those people you date may not be waiting till marriage like you are. Here are 5 tips on getting the most out of a relationship with somebody who’s had sex before.If you let all of your hurt, anger, and sense of injustice build up inside of you, you’re going to take it out on them whether you intend to or not. You’ll get irritable and won’t tell them what’s wrong.And maybe one day you’ll snap and call them a whore or accuse them of not taking sex seriously, etc.
Unfortunately for them, they didn’t cheat on you, but they get treated as if they did.As a somebody who is waiting till marriage, you’ve got a lot of pressure on you to find “the one”, so you’re going to have a tendency to try to push every relationship that way.That’s when issues like those mentioned above are going to come into play.If you’re dating somebody who’s accustomed to having sex in relationships, don’t forget the sacrifice they’re making to wait Mike handles all of the programming and design work for Although he still writes the occasional article, he spends most of his time these days creating new site features and keeping everything organized.