The grief of losing someone is genuine and legitimate, but if you are still grieving, you are in no shape to meet someone new. "I am not bitter about the past." When dating, most people want to avoid a person who comes with too much baggage.That's the individual who's still carrying the unpleasant events and feelings of their past relationships into the present.Ask questions; help them be comfortable with you, and then reciprocate.You need give and take, and being the life of the party isn't required. "I'm in good shape, and I look my best." If you've been out of the dating circuit for a very long time, it's possible that you've gotten a bit too relaxed about how you present yourself.If you are feeling unhappy, you won't be able to provide any of these.If your mood is bringing you down, it will bring others down too.Unless you are fairly content with your life, you are not ready to date.
Since most of us can't see ourselves objectively, it's a great idea to have a close friend take a good look at you and offer some advice. "I'm ready to have a good time." Most people in our age group are looking for someone with energy, optimism and warmth.You might need to go to the gym, get a new haircut, or shop for some better fitting clothes.That doesn't mean you have to be model thin or that you need to wear the latest style.Some of these sites are specifically geared to the 50-plus crowd, and they are attracting more and more single, divorced and widowed people than ever before.See also: Find love in the new year with AARP Dating.